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I don't think this is revelatory; most of us know that every activity we pursue comes at some cost. Every minute you spend at work is a minute you're not spending with your family. It is also a minute you're not learning Italian or volunteering at a nursing home. There is a weightiness to the cost of life's choices but that has a sweetness to it. And men have the cost too; I think it is the beginning of a dialogue about what we really want from life, rather than the scripted path that has remained fairly steady for the past 50 years for the middle and upper classes: secondary school, college, marriage, children simultaneous with career, retirement. rinse, repeat. Tech entrepreneurs often work for 2 years straight, take an exit option and don't work for 6 months. Maybe our new models need to be adaptive both to schedule and to human desires. Time to acknowledge that we may want different versions of "having it all" and they are neither feminist nor post-feminist.


Not one thing in that article - nor in this post - is, in reality, gender-specific. Guess what: Men can't have it all either. And men are also billing all those hours.
Newsflash: Nobody can have it all.

Derek Meyers

Great read, and I would agree that women are under more pressure to do too much to "have it all" then men. If anyone is skeptical, consider the main premise behind the award winning show 30 Rock, and the character Tina Fey plays. At the end of the day, having it all reveals where our values, our faith, and our hope, really lie, and how eagerly we pursue them. Especially in the face of setback, or worse, permanent and unavoidable tragedy (like the loss of a limb, or loved one). Choosing one thing often means refecting all other options.

Despite all of our technological advances marketed as "time saving" we seem to work more than ever. Chasing empty promises of fulfillment. Before beginning anything, it would be wise to ask, "What's the appropriate sense of urgency for this?"

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